Once again my mother and younger sister are shouting at each other, with me in between calmly approving or disproving their certain points, like with righteous judgment based on Biblical scripture, though mercy exalts over. James 2:13 I love both of them so I speak my thoughts with kindness.
There is this quote which references what my mother has said
“I have great respect for the past. If you don't know where you've come from, you don't know where you're going. I have respect for the past, but I'm a person of the moment. I'm here, and I do my best to be completely centered at the place I'm at, then I go forward to the next place.”
- Maya Angelou
It is good to have gratitude. Honor your parents, Exodus 20:12, respect their teachings. When my mother teaches me to not spread the good news of Christ, that all people will have faith alone in Him, God, and thus go to Heaven, I follow the teaching of my Father in Heaven, my spiritual parent who is higher than my earthly parent, Acts 5:29
This speaks to both the physical conditions of one’s birth, my sister and I through our mother’s womb, and our spiritual birth, by the breath of life breathed by the Father Almighty. Job 33:4. Let us not forget both parents.
Exodus 34:14 Do not worship any other god, for the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.
God is jealous for us. He desires us to worship, thank, respect, honor, Him. I know of a man who set up a scholarship. Will he continue to do this if he did not receive thank-you letters? Yet, the Lord will save both the grateful and ungrateful. Though we are not saved by good works, only faith alone in Christ, let us sow good works to reap good fruit, not to be saved, but rather, because we are saved. My mother and sister are both Christian, they are already saved, they will go to Heaven, as is the rest of the world.
Why hurt oneself with sin? Why self-harm? Our days are filled with so much suffering already, please, why make it worse my friends? And it fills my heart with sadness the many times my mother and sister shout at each other. Of course, I have also sinned, anger when it is not good, and I rebuke myself for that. All are sinners. Yet, why make things even worse for ourselves with even more sin?
My mother told me to search up Filipino proverbs from the TV screen connected to my laptop with HDMI cable.
21. A person who does not remember where he came from will never reach his destination.
Ang hindi lumingon sa pinanggalingan, hindi makakarating sa paroroonan.
It's important to look back at your roots and show gratitude to those who came before you. It is because of them that you are where you are today.
Let us be grateful for both the good and bad times, each season. Glory in our suffering for righteousness. Romans 5:3-5. Yet, with this quote, all people will eventually reach the destination of Heaven, because all will remember God, they will believe in Him, Jesus Christ, to be saved and made clean by His righteous blood, which He suffered from the cross to pour out. Leviticus 17:11
That is why my mother says to pray before sleeping, before eating, thanking the Lord for survival. As the Bible says to pray continuously, prayer goes beyond merely bedtime, breakfast, lunch, dinner, snack time.
1 Thessalonians 5:17
pray continually, (NIV)
Never stop praying. (NLV)
pray without ceasing, (ESV)
Pray without ceasing. (BSB)
Pray unceasingly. (BLB)
Pray without ceasing. (KJB)
Here is another Filipino Proverb my mother showed:
26. Imitate the rice stalk: The more grains it bears, the lower it bows.
Ang palay ay parisan, habang nagkakalaman ay lalong nagpugpugay.
The more you acquire, the more humble and respectful you should become.
Specifically, one should be humble regardless of how much they have acquired. God is opposed to being proud, Proverbs 11:2, boasting about tomorrow Proverbs 27:1, boasting in ignorance James 4:16. Let us boast in the Lord 1 Corinthians 1:31
James 4:6 ESV But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”
And during this conversation, I made reference to this.
Matthew 23:12 ESV Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.
For myself, I give caution. Though I have a website and am grateful to have had the opportunity to lead many souls to Christ, I tell me, to be humble. It’s tricky. Sometimes I may feel proud, so I oppose that feeling. If anyone else were to have been born in the situation I was in, they may have been able to do the same thing I do.
As well, as I post in many discussion forums, answer emails, reply to threads, I am not able to get to everything. In my heart, I imagine myself answering emails in a day, maybe sometimes I do, but then situations like this family matter come in. So I put them on hold, maybe even if it’s beyond a week since I’ve even opened my email inbox. As much as I enjoy helping people, I make sure to save energy to help my family. That’s my mentality to a comment by my sister, who has many friends.
1 Timothy 3:5 ESV For if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church?
When someone texts you, they have full energy. Maybe you’re one of the few that talk to you. But to you, you have many of them come to you, yet you have only similar energy reserves to them. This applies to my sister hanging out to my friends and my online ministry. Even when I am researching online, when my mother came down to talk, I stopped what I was doing and talked with her. To others, do not fall for the numbers game. It may be tempting to think “optimally” and try to push out as much “online content” as possible. Yet, even ordinary things, like making time for your family, eating with them at the dinner table, going outside with them to walk, these moments are fruitful and good. Opportunities to incorporate the biblical principles in things. And yes, times to rest to by yourself. Because Jesus was led into the wilderness for forty days Mark 1:13, the Israelites the Sabbath Day Mark 2:27, and for God rest on the seventh day Genesis 2:3.
a Filipino proverb is this: A person who does not remember where he (she) came from will never reach his (her) destination. Of Tagalog origin, it conveys and urges one person to give "importance in looking back at one’s roots and origins." The maxim also exemplifies a Filipino value known as the "utang na loob", one’s "debt of gratitude"
All shall remember the LORD God and believe in Him to be made permanently alive in Heaven.
To my mother I say like such: A worker is paid an hourly wage. But a mother works many hours for the wellbeing of their child free of charge. Thus, the child must honor their mother. It may be seen like a “debt” metaphorically speaking, where, if you wanted another person to have those same hours of wellbeing, you may have to pay them an hourly wage for their work.
And my mother does not expect to be repaid monetarily. It’s like how we are saved by grace through faith, life through Christ is a gift, not something we purchase with cash.
And what about my mother and sister’s shouting to one another? What about anger?
Proverbs 14:29 ESV Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.
Psalm 37:8 ESV Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
It is good to refrain from anger, and to be slow to anger.
Thus, to my mother I show to her Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
My mother tells me about parents who are too lenient, I am against parents who do not discipline their child at all. Children must be instructed. However, this instruction should not bring a child to anger.
These verses apply to my sister as well.
Proverbs 15:1 ESV A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
James 1:20 ESV For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
And though in this conversation and many others, I am the one who gives biblical advice calmly to both side, I too am a sinner and I too have become angry in the past. So, these are good verses for myself too.
However, there are times where it is good to be angry. I call this “Righteous Anger”. Anger can be either good or bad, we must control our emotions.
Ephesians 4:26-27 ESV Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.
Verb - Present Imperative Middle or Passive - 2nd Person Plural
Strong's 3710: To irritate, provoke, be angry. From orge; to provoke or enrage, i.e. become exasperated.
If someone you love is murdered, you will be angry at the crime of murder committed. Forgiving the sinner Colossians 3:13, yet standing against the sin! Gentle towards the person, angry against the sin!
Though I rebuke GotQuestions because they are against Christian Universalism, even though it’s the truth, this article in particular is useful.